Jersey Girl a Recovering Addicts Interview came about from meeting a wonderful woman online. Jersey Girl is an active member of the Narcotics Anonymous 12 Step Fellowship and is an example of how “carrying the message of recovery to others.” She makes herself available online and offline to those who desire to change his/her lives. I was grateful when she consented to be interviewed.
Jersey Girl a Recovering Addicts Interview
ATN: What was your drug of choice?
Jersey Girl: Alcohol (rum, brandy,vodka) and pills of all kinds
ATN: How many attempts at recovery have you had?
Jersey Girl: I entered the rooms of NA in Sept 2002
ATN: What is your longest clean time?
Jersey Girl: 4 years
ATN: You mentioned your affiliation with NA and you certainly express your belief on your fanpage.
Had NA always been a part of your recovery journey.
Jersey Girl: I did learn enough that I new what I had to do but my ignorance and pride got in the way.
I thought I could do it my way once I learned everything and obviously I learned that does not work.
ATN: Have you been in inpatient treatment? If so, Do you think it helps? What did you like and not like about the treatment you received?
Jersey Girl: No I have never been inpatient treatment. I do know people who it has worked for but I personally think its like everything else in this program it will only work if your ready for it to work and you’re ready to surrender.
ATN: Do you have your family support? What are your relationships with your family like now and what was it like when you were active.
Jersey Girl: I have a good relationship with my son, both my daughters are now adults and do not talk to me, they have told me their mom is dead. I will always hope one day that will change now I have grandchildren I might not ever get the chance to meet breaks my heart.
ATN: Briefly share what being active was like at your lowest point.
Jersey Girl: I was suicidal. I didn’t care about anyone or anything anymore. I had a plan and location and day picked out. when the feelings of others you love don’t matter anymore then you are in a very bad spot.
ATN: What was the trigger to your recent relapse.
Jersey Girl: Bad things happening in life and just saying I had enough, its not working anymore. and I had no reason or purpose to wake up every day.
ATN: I have worked in methadone clinics for several years and my clients have had different experiences with NA. Some state they can join NA but cannot celebrate because they are on methadone.
Others have been told they are not welcome.
I see this as a group conscious issue not a fellowship belief because
1) methadone is prescribed by a doctor, 2) there are people in the rooms who are on anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medication etc. 3) what happened to only needing to have a desire?
Jersey Girl: I think I would be ok with them in the rooms but no they cannot celebrate. anti depressions and such is because of a mental disorder that is out of our control. drug use and recovery is in every bit of our control. My thoughts are there should be no “bandaids” to help fix the situation you created by your own choices, go to rehab, go thru the withdrawl and detox and learn to live clean.
ATN: Share about your fanpage what is your purpose?
Jersey Girl: I wanted to be there for at least one person who thought that no one cared or no one was available to them, I wanted people to know I am a person who had made mistakes but has a big heart and is trying to help people like the ones who have helped me and sometimes its simply just being there and listening.
ATN: The holidays are coming up what suggestion do you have the newcomer, and family members to keep the newcomer safe during holiday activities.
Jersey Girl: Stay active. go to a lot of meetings. This Christmas will be the first one in my life I have ever spent completely alone, no friends no family no kids no grandkids, no one will be around. and its breaks my heart and i’m a little worried but I love to bike and hike so i’m gonna go on a hike and a bike ride and watch football and remember i’m not the only one alone on that day. I will definitely be at a meeting. Christmas I will be with another addict for at least 1 hour.
ATN: Thank you for consenting to do this interview. Do you have any last words for the Addiction Treatment News readers?
Jersey Girl: I think recovery is very hard because you have to admit your faults your mistakes all the hurt and pain you caused others. I think the NA basic text and the Living Clean are great books. The NA Basic Text is the only book I can honestly admit I have read from cover to cover in my entire life. I am thankful for every single person who has helped me along the way. The may never think about it or remember but I will never forget who they are or how they were a help to me. Today I do not want to die, today I do have a purpose to get up everyday, today I love life and I am very happy I am clean and sober and not suicidal.
It was a pleasure getting to know Jersey Girl. I commend her efforts to maintain her recovery and help others. Will be keeping her and her family in prayer that they will one day come together. That her grandchildren will one day get to see and hug her. That her children will have a forgiving heart.
Our views regarding how Methadone patients are treated in Narcotics Anonymous defer significantly. Methadone is a prescribed medication and it is recommended that 12 Step Fellowships and/or therapy be a part of the treatment regimen. I have attended NA meetings where the group did not have barriers in place for the methadone users. These men and women were allowed to participate and celebrate like all other members. This has always led me and some of my colleagues to believe that this is a group conscious decision and not the philosophy of the fellowship itself.
The holidays are upon us and Jersey Girl has given some solid advice on how to stay safe and abstinent these next few months.
For group support Jersey Girl is the Administrator of a Facebook Support group “One Addict Helping Another.”
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