This Holiday Abstinence Checklist is available to assist those who will be struggling during this holiday with maintaining their recovery.
It is important to stick to your goals and know that to do so you do not have to be alone. In person, phone, or via the internet you can get help during this tough time.
The steps to staying safe
- Accompany your sponsor to a one of his/her holiday celebrations. Don’t be afraid to ask if this is possible
- Invite your sponsor to your family event. Share with your family why you are doing so and explain how important it is to have someone with you who understands what you may be going through. Don’t be afraid to ask your family if they can keep alcoholic beverages in a cabinet or in one room that you can avoid. In some situations, family members can accommodate this request. It is important for you to remember that you are responsible for your recovery so don’t take offense if the concessions you ask for are denied.
- Attend marathon meetings locally and online. Get your calendar and list ready now.
- Carry your sponsors’ phone number with you in case you need assistance. If you sponsor will not be in town for the holidays use the numbers that you have been already getting since you started attending meetings.
- Carry your Fellowships hotline phone number with you. This is not an alternative to having other numbers. You are in a safer position if you include these numbers as a resource.
- Do not linger in a room with alcohol and drugs. Hopefully, you have made the decision not to attend any gathering that has illegal substances. Just in case it is best you avoid any room you think family members are gathering to partake in such substances. You better than anyone knows the traditions of your family. If it is the norm to have all the family eat together then after set out the alcohol and substances then that is the time you preplan to give your love and say your goodbyes.
- Don’t go if you do not feel safe. There will be other times to celebrate with family. Think long term your recovery is to be placed first.
- Having 2nd thoughts play the tape and set your boundaries. If you have any doubts that you will not be able to handle the environment and company at a family planned celebration; call and wish all the best and not go. This phone call can be made with someone in recovery by your side for support so you don’t risk being talked into going anyway. Play the tape by thinking about what it would feel like if you relapse, envision any past experiences. What does that feel like? Tell yourself that is not how you want to feel and do not place yourself at risk.
Important numbers to have
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255
Veterans Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255
Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
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