Female Aging Issues in Recovery

Female Aging Issues In Recovery

I wrote the poem Female Aging Issues in Recovery when I was in my fifth year of sobriety.   I went to AA & NA faithfully.  You can contact either of these fellowships to get information regarding location, days and time of women’s meetings as well as other meetings. 

Was and still am grateful for my growth following the 12 Steps of recovery, my sponsor’s guidance, and the meetings.

For the first few years, I didn’t attend many meetings that was meant for women only. Then as life showed up I realized the meetings alone did not help me with the female issues I was encountering.  I learned a lot about Powerlessness but it took me awhile to connect that with other aspects of my life.   I was totally focused on staying clean and sober living in a pink cloud.

another day no using I’m so blessed

I had learned to have respect for my Higher Power whom I call God and the Lower Power that was the keeper of temptation to use alcohol and drugs.  So not to risk relapse I asked women for help. 

This To Shall Pass

Not playing games with my recovery I found my way to women’s meetings that allowed me to address my concerns.  I realized once again I was not unique.  Heard a lot of suggestions on how to address the emotional, physical and relationship issues that concerned me.

A few people suggested I go on a trip and relax let my mind flow.  So I went on a cruise had a lot of fun and determined that my biggest issues was my job and my husband.  Came home quit the job. Took me two weeks to figure out I should have kicked husband out.  So took another trip came home and got that done. Happily ever after I am now with hubby #2.

Fellowship Meetings, Women,  and Aging

The women’s meetings and friendships I established helped me get over myself. As a group, we empowered each other.  Very similar to a post I wrote about the benefits of masterminding. 

I hope you enjoy this poem and get where I was coming from when I wrote it.

 

Female Aging Issues In Recovery

THEY TOLD ME

ABOUT THE 12 STEPS OF RECOVERY

ABOUT THE 24 HOUR PLAN STARTING MY DAY OVER

THEY TOLD ME ABOUT SELF-DISCLOSURE

AND WHAT NOT TO DO AS WELL AS WHAT TO DO

IF I FELT I WANTED TO USE

BUT NOBODY SHARED WITH ME

WHAT TO DO WHEN MY HAIR

STARTED TO THIN

 THE HOT FLASHES CAME

AND HE CHEATED

WHEN THE FAT SPREAD

AND THE SKIN DRIED

NOBODY TOLD ME ABOUT THE QUICK THOUGHTS

BUT THE SLOW MOVES

ABOUT THE BODY ACHES AND THE

UNEXPECTED SHAKES

THEN I REMEMBERED

THEY TOLD ME ABOUT POWERLESSNESS

AND IT CAME TO ME I CAN GROW

OLD GRACEFULLY OR SHAMEFULLY

AND ON ANY GIVEN DAY

I CHOOSE WHICH

Acceptance

By the way, my bones still hurt,  my hair is still thinning and sex is marvelous without alcohol and drugs.  It is only in my mind when I pull up in the driveway that I am moving fast to get out of the car. I just laugh and ease myself out of the seat no longer mourning the so-called good old days. 

I love myself so much and my hubby tells me how beautiful I am even on those days when I think “he has got to be kidding.”  The bottom line is I live life on life’s terms. It’s too short to be miserable over the inevitable.

You May also enjoy reading: 5 Types of People you Need in Your Recovery

Resource:

Twelve Steps and 12 Traditions of Alcoholic Anonymous (affiliate link)

Narcotics Anonymous Step Working Guides (affiliate link)

**If you enjoyed this post Comment below and share this post with your network!**

 

Don’t forget to Subscribe to our list and receive your free gift of inspirational quotes

To learn about how I happily and successfully run an online business from home  CLICK HERE

To Our Success!

Lydia Brown

Free Download Growing & Healing in Recovery Quotes

Addiction Treatment News Newsletter

I will never give away, trade or sell your email address. You can unsubscribe at any time.

Powered by Optin Forms

Lydia Brown

Lydia Brown, MS, MAC, CSAC, CADAC Editor ATN, Home Business Owner Advocate for Alcohol and Substance Abuse Treatment CARF Surveyor

12 thoughts on “Female Aging Issues in Recovery

  • April 17, 2017 at 12:42 am
    Permalink

    Wow Lydia,
    What a powerful poem. I am thrilled that you are participating in the Healing Recovery Retreat virtual summit.

    Maybe I can post your poem on your speaker page – if you like. It is really powerful.

    Warmly,

    Dr. Erica
    Dr. Erica Goodstone recently posted…A Conversation With Neale Donald WalschMy Profile

    Reply
    • April 17, 2017 at 4:35 pm
      Permalink

      Hi Dr. Erica I would love to have you use the poem for the summit. Thank you for your comment and the opportunity

      Reply
  • April 14, 2017 at 7:33 pm
    Permalink

    Hello Lydia! I just love this post! You Go Girlfriend..
    Thank You So Much For Sharing
    Chery :))

    Reply
    • April 17, 2017 at 4:40 pm
      Permalink

      Hello, Elise support networks are proving to be beneficial to many. Thank you for your comment.

      Reply
  • April 12, 2017 at 6:50 am
    Permalink

    I know how useful, and sometimes essential, it can be to get together with people in a similar situation to yourself. Talking through problems, getting help and support, and being able to pass my own knowledge to others has been so good for me when dealing with a family genetic problem. You put it well in saying we empower each other.
    Sue Bride recently posted…11 Practical Methods to Increase Creativity For BloggersMy Profile

    Reply
    • April 13, 2017 at 1:14 am
      Permalink

      Hello, Sue thank you for your comment. I too like giving support to others as a caregiver I have learned so much from others in the same situation.

      Reply
  • April 11, 2017 at 6:38 am
    Permalink

    Hi Lydia, it’s a great thing to find some way to beat down the negative thoughts and feelings. My friend practices mindfulness and he has found it so influential in the way he thinks about himself.

    Enjoy the journey!
    Mandy Allen recently posted…And We Have Lift Off!My Profile

    Reply
    • April 11, 2017 at 6:05 pm
      Permalink

      Thank you, Mandy for your comment. Happy your friend has found a way to address negative self talk.

      Reply
    • April 11, 2017 at 2:29 am
      Permalink

      Thank you Dr. Sharon it is always a pleasure to have you visit.

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge